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Habits and Tying up Cats

At this week’s NLP Practice Group, habits were a theme.  Whether they were habits of getting into a particular state, or behaviours that we no longer wished to do. What these habits have in common is that they were all created for a reason – the first time we did it, it was to get […]

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Amygdala Hijack – Don’t panic

We have all had the experience of doing or saying something “in the heat of the moment” and then, when we had time to think about it, regretting it or wishing we hadn’t reacted in such a way.   You may be reassured to know that it is completely normal to respond in this reflex […]

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Adult Colouring Books – Really?

At some points in 2015 half the entries in the Amazon top 10 bestsellers list have been adult colouring books.  Marketed as the latest DIY mindfulness technique, they seem to have become more popular than most people would have thought possible.  And it’s true, any activity where attention is gently focussed on one thing will […]

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Acknowledge what you are already doing

How often do you acknowledge what you are already doing? Last week I spent an enjoyable day training aspiring coaches in London.  In preparing for the day I reviewed a large number of coaching models.  I was struck by what seemed to be a pattern – most of them focus on 2 areas: What do you […]

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Johari Window – Developing Self Awareness

One of the aims of coaching is always the development of greater self-awareness, improved self-management skills and increased self-efficacy in the client, so that they develop their own goals and solutions.  The Johari window is a useful tool for generating “aha” moments and for encouraging clients to push their boundaries. There is always an element that is known […]

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The Masks We Wear (not just at Halloween!)

It’s nearly Halloween, the one time of year when it appears to be acceptable to wear masks in public.  But what if, in truth we were each wearing  invisible masks all of the time? The term personality is derived from the Latin word persona meaning a mask. Personality is the sum total of an individual’s habits, […]

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One Day Course – skills for life

NLP One Day Taster Workshop from Melanie Richens This is a great way to learn useful communication, state management and goal setting skills.  A full day of training for only £29!  For more information or to book visit

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Remember to Relax

I am often asked by clients for advice on how to relax.  In asking this question they are revealing a belief that they don’t already know how to do it for themselves. The truth is we all know how to relax, we all fall asleep at night and we are all capable of daydreaming– we […]

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